As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.
In an effort to write more, I have started to try and follow along with the different themes from Cari over at http://www.clan-donaldson.com/. I am two days in (I know, I am soooo committed! 2 whole days!) and I am loving it. Ok, so 7 quick takes...
Ugh...This adorable, smiley, funny baby of mine has become a little monster! He is biting EVERYONE!! I seriously mean everyone, all of his siblings, especially the smaller ones, his cousins and unfortunately even the kids that I babysit. It is bad enough that he is gnawing on our kids and even my sisters poor little ones, but the fact that he has chomped down on kids that I am being paid to keep safe is bad, really really bad. I am just at a loss. I have tried everything. I have tried to talk to him about it. ( Yeah that one got me really far! You know how easy it is to reason with a 2 year old!) I have tried timeout. I have slapped his hand. I have even...bit him back (Please don't judge! It was very gently and more for reaction than anything. I am not proud of this, I am desperate!) I make him hug and apologize to his victim. He does this very willingly and enthusiastic. I am starting to wonder if he is merely hugging them to find the juiciest place to nibble. I must admit that he comes by it naturally. He is the product of a long line of biters. My mom was a biter and... I admit it...I, too, was a biter. In fact I drew blood (more than once) when I bit my cousin Tara as she was climbing the stairs in front of me. (I am so sorry Tara. 30 some years late, but none-the-less heartfelt and sincere!)
In the interest of following Theme Thursday...Boys...Here is a picture of my favorite boys ever!
Our children will fail us. They will be willful and stubborn. They will be disobedient and defiant. We will fail our children. We will expect too much. We will be demanding and unforgiving. The fact is that nobody is perfect. Why do we do this? Why do we expect so much from those that we love? I think that it is because we see in them the potential that they have. I think that as parents we do this, maybe a lot (?). There was a time that we were going through a very difficult time with one of our children and I was beyond frustrated, angry, overwhelmed, and hurt. I went to confession to one of the best confessors ever and poured my heart out. He listened and looked very thoughtful and said the one thing that I needed to hear. He said, "Your child needs to know that you love him/her no matter what." I was kind of indignant. Of course our kids know that we love them. But he continued. " He/she needs to know that if they never get through this and continue to behave in this way until the day that they die, even if this is ultimately what kills them, you will love them." Wow. We love our children. That is an absolute. Even in the middle of the hell that we were going through with this child, I never doubted my love for him/her. But do our children know, I mean really know that our love is not contingent on their good behavior? We say it, but do they believe it? I would hope so, but sometimes in the middle of badness, maybe they need to be reminded. Maybe we, as parents, need to be reminded of that too. You don't always have to like your kids. You won't always like them. Trust me. I know that it sounds bad, but they are only human, and my dear friends, so are you. Our feelings get hurt. Our pride takes a hit. They are so stubborn and just won't listen. And sometimes we are just so stubborn and won't listen either. But you will always love them and that is what makes it so difficult. They will hurt your heart in ways that you couldn't imagine, not in spite of your love for them, but because of it.