Kids are so stupid. By kids I mean young "adults". By stupid, I mean really, really, really dumb. I know that sounds harsh, but I stand behind it 100%. I know for a fact that this is true, because I was stupid too. I was so stupid that I still apologize to my parents weekly for the ages of 12-23. (For real, I do. Ask my mom!) No matter what other, let us say "wiser," people told me, I had to find out for myself. Whatever advice was lovingly offered, I shrugged it off. Whatever warnings were given, they went unheeded. I was your typical, bullheaded, stubborn, self absorbed teenager. The world revolved around me and my friends and we knew best. We were...in a word, invincible.
I see how stupid we were, now. You know, hindsight being 20/20 and all that. We made foolish choices. We were so concerned with ourselves and what we wanted to do, that we seldom considered how our actions would affect others. Our stupidity wasn't done intentionally to hurt others, but it did. We weren't aware of the collateral damage of our actions, but it was always there. This has become so much more apparent to me now that I am, well, a parent. (ha!) Now that I am on this side, I feel the sting of my kids stupidity. I feel the hurt and disappointment that my parents must have felt. I feel the anger and the sadness of realizing that our kids aren't always going to be what we want them to be. But I have also experienced an unexpected feeling of mercy towards my stupid kids. I feel bad that they have to learn the hard way. My heart hurts a little bit to know that sometimes life hurts. My kids aren't invincible. They will definitely make dumb choices. And one of the hard lessons that life teaches us is that stupidity eventually catches up with you and you will have to deal with the consequences. That is how we grow. It is also how we learn. So if my kids have to learn the hard way (like their mother), I will be upset for sure, but I will also try to be forgiving. I will try to remember how stupid I was, a long, long, long time ago. I will try to remember that my parents were upset too, but they always loved me. And I will always love my stupid kids.